Conflicts are inevitable. No matter how hard we try we’ll eventually run into someone who will disappoint, hurt or betray us. If we don’t have the right tools to deal with conflict we can be crippled for a long time.
Husbands and wives get their feelings
hurt because their spouse said something, did something or didn’t do what they’re
expected to do. Friends get offended because they felt neglected. Internal
conflicts can be detrimental to your company morale and business productivity.
Having the skills to resolve conflict is vital to our success. Let’s look at a few
ideas that can help us resolve conflict in everyday situation.
1. Your
opinion is as important as theirs. The root of all conflicts is our belief
system. When we have differences of opinions, it is easy to get all rattled up
because the other person sees things differently than us. If we want to resolve
conflict we should be able to respect the opinion of others. To accept the
differences of opinion is not the same as believing the same way as they do.
Human beings have much more in common than our differences. Focus on what you can agree on. Seek first to understand before you can be
understood.
2. Be
secure in God. I used to be extremely insecure. I was surrounded by people
but due to my childhood issues, I’d developed an attitude. I used to be very
opinionated and I didn’t hesitate to cut people down if I felt threatened by
them. As I sought help and matured, I realized that I can be secure in myself
without having to contradict others. When
we’re secure in God we can be secure with people. That is what Jesus did! When we’re secure in ourselves, we’re able
to accept others. You’re here not to prove anything. You don’t have to
teach anybody. You don’t have to change the other person until he/she wants to
change. Rest in God’s peace!
3. Reach
out to reconcile. It’s miserable to carry on a day with a grudge against
your spouse, kids, friend or a co-worker. You can live in the tense situation
or you can be the bigger person and try to resolve the conflict. Don’t try to
resolve issues when people are still running on high emotions. Give people some
space. It is humbling to be the first one to have to reach out but if you do,
the rewards will be great. Most of the time, the other person is feeling as bad
as you. You can say something simple like, “Hey,
that didn’t come out the way I wanted to. Can we start over again?” A genuine gesture of care and concern can go
a long way in resolving conflict.
4. Start
with “I feel” statement. No matter how bad you feel, don’t accuse people. Most
conflicts take place because of misunderstanding and miscommunication. Instead
of saying you this or you that start with “I
feel.” Your feelings are personal. No one can tell you what you’re feeling
is wrong. When you start by “I feel”
statement you take the edge off the accusation. Then try to understand the
feelings of the other person in return. When you hash out your feelings in a
civil way it will be easy to resolve conflict. Your feelings matter but so does
the feelings of others.
5. Forgive
quickly. People will do us wrong. The only way to get over that is to
forgive them. Forgiveness is a big idea.
It does more for you than the offender. When
you forgive you’re letting a prisoner out – that prisoner is you! We can
sulk, hurt or contemplate revenge or we can just forgive and let it go. The Bible
teaches God forgives us in direct proportion to the way we forgive. Let’s learn
to forgive quickly.
Friend,
let’s give up the low life and learn to live in peace with one another. God’s
promise is to pour down His blessing where there is unity of hearts, minds and
souls. You don’t always have to agree
with everybody but you can accept everybody just the way they are. Maturity is
to acknowledge others without compromising your own conviction. Let’s live
a conflict-free life so that we can be better producers in life! I’m praying
for you and I believe in you!
“As much as it is possible, live in
peace with everyone” (Romans 12:18 God’s
Word).
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