I know I’m treading in hot water
trying to delve into a subject that has been a topic of conversation for
centuries. I don’t imply to be an expert but I think if we pay attention both
men and women can learn of each other.
So what do women want? Hmmm... I’m
sitting here staring at my computer screen! We all are unique so this is
definitely not an exhausted list. This is just the basics to help some of my male
friends. So, here we go…
Women
want to feel beautiful. Worldwide,
the total sales in the beauty industry have reached over $400 billion dollars. Have
you heard a man ask, “How do I look?” When
a woman ask you that question the answer is always, “You look beautiful.” Most of the time the reason she’s asking is
because she’s feeling a little insecure and she wants you to acknowledge that
she’s beautiful.
Women
want you to listen. Researchers
are showing women speak an average of 20,000 words daily compared to only 7,000
for men. They have found women have
higher levels of Foxp2, known as the “language protein” that causes them to
talk more. When women speak they’re processing
out loud. They aren’t necessarily looking for people to fix them. They simply
want you to listen and feel the way they feel and see things. Hard but doable!
Women
want to be appreciated. I’m convinced
women works more than men. Amazingly, they don’t make a big deal about it. The
Bible says that God made Eve to be a “help mate.” Women don’t mind helping and
working hard. However, when her hard work is noticed and appreciated it energizes
her to do it over again.
Women want security. I used to think that means only financially. But security for a woman is a broad umbrella. If you’re in a committed relationship, you have to provide for financially, emotionally and spiritually. A house and a steady cash flow bring material security. A heartfelt talk and understanding bring emotional security. When a man leads his family in spiritual things, women think it’s attractive!
Women
want intimacy and touch. Women love
secrets and they love intimacy. Men fear looking weak and vulnerable. Just the
opposite is true if you want to impress women. Women love it when men let their
guards down. When men open up to share their feelings and dreams, most women
are floored. In appropriate relationships, women love to be touched
non-sexually. They enjoy affectionate touch.
You may think odd that I write these
things. However, my intention is to help my male friends see that it’s not
rocket science to understand women. Men, you can know your Bible and not know
your woman. Truth is, most of the time we don’t understand women because we’re
too selfish and narcissist. I know because I’ve been there. This is my
encouragement for you to learn about women. If you’re in a relationship, it is
your responsibility to make her feel happy, fulfilled and secure. With God’s
help and a little learning, you can do anything.
Ladies, you’re beautiful, intelligent
and wise. I’m not claiming to know everything. I’m still growing in this area. Please
share with us what women want! God has a great plan for your life. We love and appreciate you.
Tomorrow…
What Men want…
“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ
loved the church and gave himself up for her” (Ephesians 5:25 ESV)
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