I know this is a very broad subject
but I believe there are four elements necessary for every successful marriage.
Tell me if you agree with me or not!
1. Communication. Any good marriage
must start with great communication. You have to express the good, bad and the
ugly but how, when and what you say makes all the difference. A loving marital
relationship should be safe and trustworthy. Women want to talk and men want to
go to their caves. Neither is wrong and both should be allowed space to have it
their way with a balance. Become a student of communication. It will make a bad
marriage good and a good marriage extra-ordinary.
2. Friendship. Even a boss finds it
hard to fire a friend! When you take the time to develop friendship in your
marriage, you’re investing in your own future. Friendship is to like and accept
someone just the way he/she is. It means not to take the other person for
granted. And friendship means to be loyal among many other things. Cultivate friendship
in your marriage and you’ll never get tired of each other!
3. Affection. We all know women long
for affection. But did you know researchers are finding out that men crave affection
as much as women? Non-sexual affection and touch communicate a very powerful
bond in a marriage. Practice affection with your clothes on; it will do magic
when you’re without.
4. Intimacy. Intimacy in marriage is not
only for fun, pleasure and pro-creation but it literally brings two people together
and makes them one. The scripture says that the marriage bed is undefiled. But
it should also be done with mutual respect. It should never be used to manipulate.
God invented intimacy. Don’t be afraid to explore.
One last word about love and marriage: focus on what your partner
does have and overlook what he/she doesn’t have. Don’t sacrifice the 80% for
the sake of 20! “Therefore a man shall leave his father and his mother and hold fast to
his wife, and they shall become one flesh” (Genesis 2:24 ESV).
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